Off the topic (light vs dark)

Now I dont normally comment on stuff like this I let it go over my head because my mother always said "the best answer to a fool is silence!" But seriously articles like http://pardonmyblog.co.uk/archives/20781 with the author claiming he wanted to cause controversy then recoiling when an outburst happened brought me out of my vow of silence. I personally think a smooth ebony skin tone is gorgeous, is this a 'preference' yes, but am I stereotyping and bringing other races or skin tones down whilst doing this!? NO.

The sweeping statements in the article were flawed and I guess with the massive and angry response he received he's thinking 'hmm, see I'm right!?' Defending your self is not always an outcry of being insecure, think about it, if someone is out of line you have to put them in their place.


If the writer was referring to PERSONAL experiences he should of only referred to those instances, instead the piece goes on to generalise and says 'most' or 'majority' bringing the full scope of dark skinned women into the debate. Personally if I'm referred to as light or dark, I don't care, but thats me, if someone has been constantly beat down throughout history because of their skin tone can you really be surprised at people being defensive!? Instead of writing something to uplift black women of all shades something like this is seen as a 'hot controversial topic' frankly it is old and played out. Man or woman, light or dark, ugly or Gabrielle Union fine we ALL have our insecurities whether you speak on it or not they are still there! I agree with one point he said, "if your beautiful you are beautiful", shades/race do not come into the equation but then sure enough if your an angry woman, your an angry woman the formula should remain the same, why oh why are skin tones, race, generalisations and stereotypes being entangled in the mix?


Race and skin tone is something that has cast a shadow over the black race as whole for many years you would be silly to think that the wounds that have been inflicted over a course of years can be healed over night and we can just 'get over it'. It will take time ALOT of time and articles such as the one I am commenting on only pushes us back. Opinions are opinions and he is entitled to them, if he has experienced this first hand, fair enough. Although when it comes to the sweeping statements and not expecting to get an angry reaction that is just naive and ignorant to be honest.

I like to embody positivity, and I think embracing and loving your self no matter what race or other definitions of the modern world try to confide you in is the best thing you can do! People will always have opinions and things to say but if you don't love and appreciate yourself no one else truly will.